My five-year old daughter frequently says "no" with a "thank you".
It wasn't intentional but I think I taught her that by example.
She can be so polite at times even with the little things.
However, there are times when I don't want to hear those words especially during exam week.
Me: "Are you ready to study?"
Via: "No, thank you mommy." (Without even looking up)
If you must know anak, I'm not offering you anything. I'm actually ordering you to get ready for crunch time.
Saturday, December 19, 2015
Friday, December 18, 2015
Kids and iPads
My daughter is a fan of You Tube for years now. I don't really know how much she spends in front of the iPad since I spend all day at work. When I get home, I muster up all the energy that remains to play with her and her toys. We try to read books instead. She goes straight to bed after that. She's hands off the iPad when I'm around.
Her iPad is a substitute for a playmate. She's an only child and she stays inside the house most of the time (Thank God). iPad is her window to the world. However, there are so many things in You Tube that are not appropriate for her age. For example, Katy Perry. Her songs are great but her videos are of course, on a different level of understanding. Even those Lego videos are a bit dark for my taste and so, I tell her to stop watching those.
I put on the filter in the You Tube account that she's using. And now, she can only watch toy videos which is also bad enough because all she can think of is having them all.
I tried downloading the educational apps but she's not even using them. I paid for Homer which we use to help her read before she even started reading. There are some good and bad outcomes in using the computer (iPad in my case). However, we need to use it with them. We are still parents and there's no substitute for that.
Her iPad is a substitute for a playmate. She's an only child and she stays inside the house most of the time (Thank God). iPad is her window to the world. However, there are so many things in You Tube that are not appropriate for her age. For example, Katy Perry. Her songs are great but her videos are of course, on a different level of understanding. Even those Lego videos are a bit dark for my taste and so, I tell her to stop watching those.
I put on the filter in the You Tube account that she's using. And now, she can only watch toy videos which is also bad enough because all she can think of is having them all.
I tried downloading the educational apps but she's not even using them. I paid for Homer which we use to help her read before she even started reading. There are some good and bad outcomes in using the computer (iPad in my case). However, we need to use it with them. We are still parents and there's no substitute for that.
Friday, September 25, 2015
Know The Value of Money
There is nothing more bothersome than someone spending money they don't have.
Our family has been so blessed financially. We are so used to spending so much. We get an item or several of them in a store and go pay for it in the cashier without even bothering how much was in the price tag or even checking the total of the receipt.
That is how your family (from your mother's side) lives.
I (your mom) is bothered by it. I shouldn't be. Your grandparents can spend however they want to spend their money. I have no claim on it. However, I always think that we should save some for later (especially when the time comes when they actually need it).
Money can run out. And I don't want it gone before them. I want them to enjoy having it until the end.
Your grandma's philosophy is spend for yourself as much as you can as long as their is supply. If it runs out, then there's nothing else you can do but NOT spend any. For me that's a dangerous thing. However, I trust my parents know what they are doing. They are actually in the money business and they know the value of every cent they earn. They worked hard - really hard, for it so it means that money is really valuable.
Money has no value to the rich. They can spend it without thinking.
Despite what you see how they spend it on themselves, including you (my daughter), they know the value of money. They know that a certain small amount is valuable to hungry mouths and the homeless people. But they also know the value of happiness and comfort. They can spend it all to their heart's content. It's their money anyways.
We are not rich. We know its value. Even though we are showered by your grandparents, please learn the value of money. We should work hard for it to know all about it.
I don't want you to experience a moment in your life wanting something that we cannot afford. But here me, that experience is very valuable.
I have already experienced that. Your father and I have but we try our very best that you won't ever have to experience it. But it is necessary.
Do not live in disappointment. Please do not get scornful of the people who cannot give you what you want, and (God forbid) what you may need.
Let's work for it but let's not live for it. Live for something else more valuable.
For your father and me, we both work and live for you. We want to be there for you.
Please remember that the value of money is nothing compared to you. People are more valuable than money itself. Life is more valuable than money itself. Your good values is more valuable than money itself.
We value you more than anything else.
Our family has been so blessed financially. We are so used to spending so much. We get an item or several of them in a store and go pay for it in the cashier without even bothering how much was in the price tag or even checking the total of the receipt.
That is how your family (from your mother's side) lives.
I (your mom) is bothered by it. I shouldn't be. Your grandparents can spend however they want to spend their money. I have no claim on it. However, I always think that we should save some for later (especially when the time comes when they actually need it).
Money can run out. And I don't want it gone before them. I want them to enjoy having it until the end.
Your grandma's philosophy is spend for yourself as much as you can as long as their is supply. If it runs out, then there's nothing else you can do but NOT spend any. For me that's a dangerous thing. However, I trust my parents know what they are doing. They are actually in the money business and they know the value of every cent they earn. They worked hard - really hard, for it so it means that money is really valuable.
Money has no value to the rich. They can spend it without thinking.
Despite what you see how they spend it on themselves, including you (my daughter), they know the value of money. They know that a certain small amount is valuable to hungry mouths and the homeless people. But they also know the value of happiness and comfort. They can spend it all to their heart's content. It's their money anyways.
We are not rich. We know its value. Even though we are showered by your grandparents, please learn the value of money. We should work hard for it to know all about it.
I don't want you to experience a moment in your life wanting something that we cannot afford. But here me, that experience is very valuable.
I have already experienced that. Your father and I have but we try our very best that you won't ever have to experience it. But it is necessary.
Do not live in disappointment. Please do not get scornful of the people who cannot give you what you want, and (God forbid) what you may need.
Let's work for it but let's not live for it. Live for something else more valuable.
For your father and me, we both work and live for you. We want to be there for you.
Please remember that the value of money is nothing compared to you. People are more valuable than money itself. Life is more valuable than money itself. Your good values is more valuable than money itself.
We value you more than anything else.
Tuesday, September 22, 2015
Future You
I'm actually thinking of things that you can do so that your efforts in the future will not go to waste.
I don't want you to be a doctor because it is time-consuming. You'll just waste your youth on academic books. That is not the way to live.
I want you to have more time for yourself unlike me or your lola mommy.
But no regrets. I hope lola mommy also don't have any.
So I wanted you to aim for a desk job. Yes. A desk job. It's not demeaning, don't worry. But if you want to try another, it's fine with me. As long as you're happy with it, then that would be great.
However, on your way up, I want to harness the following in you besides the intelligence quotient (IQ):
Body Intelligence
Emotional Intelligence
Moral Intelligence
And can I add, Musical Intelligence
I'm going to make it work for you. I want you to concentrate on these things. At this age, it may seem that I'm just concerned with your academics. But honestly, as long as you know how to read with ease, understand the words that you're reading and writing legibly (unlike your mommy), then I'm happy and will be more relaxed.
You will do good, Anak.
I'm not after excellence. I'm after your survival and happiness.
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