Is There Any Ouchy?

Why hide from Momma?

God has not given you to me just so I could make judgements on you.

I feel the need to take care of you.  So please forgive mommy if sometimes, I get carried away and smother you.  I didn't mean to.

At the age of three, you already have the tendency to hide "them" from me.  "Them" meaning all the things that hurt you.

Via, I'm here so that you can talk to someone.  I'll always be here to listen and try not to make judgement.  I'll restrain myself from making my usual hysterics and outburst.

I know myself and I know that I can overreact more often than not.  And when it comes to you, I overreact more intensely than others can.  Forgive me, but it's because you are my child - I don't care how old you get.

But I'm promising myself not to be my usual self when you're around.  I will try to hide my emotions for you.  I'll do everything I can so as not to turn you away because right now, you are doing just that.

I don't understand why you won't show the "ouchy" or tell momma what happened.  We're supposed to be the closest people because we've never been apart.  I'm your mommy.  I'm here to protect you.

I'd be an utter failure if you won't confide in me.  I cannot be your momma if I don't know what's going on with my own daughter.  I'd be like all the other mothers that I despised - seeming not to care about their own kids and seeming not to care about anyone but themselves.

Please learn how to confide in me.  I'm here to listen.

Via First

I think that's what our household is all about while you are growing up.  Our priority is to provide all of your needs.  We try to make room for you all the time.  It's not only us that is wishing for your happiness.  Even your grandparents (on my side of the family) is always on the lookout for your well-being.

However, this is not a reason for you to grow self-centred.  We hope you give the same consideration that we are giving you.  We are hoping but never forcing you to do so.  Forcing you will probably do you no good.

It is actually easier for us to attain your happiness instead of ours.  You have to remember, Via, that it is always easier to make other people happy than trying to make yourself happy.  This holds so true.  I don't know if many people will agree though.

There are so many problems in this world because people are selfish.  So in order not to create further problems, make sure that you refrain from making yourself too happy.  It creates trouble for everyone.  I don't really mean that what makes you happy is bad.  What I mean is a disregard for others feelings and well-being is bad.

This doesn't mean you have to disregard your own happiness.  We didn't do all those sacrifices for you just so you could be unhappy.  The key is balance.

You put yourself first ... among with other people.   That is all.